sometimes one of the harder parts of being the cast-off, unacknowledged gay daughter in law is the …
Not being able to say anything to the people who are hurting you.
Or seeing the social media updates from happy families, where my inlaws play house with my wife’s siblings, smiling beneath the CN Tower, holding a granddaughter that at least one of them would disown if she turns out to be gay…
Seeing the reminders of what regular life looks like to others.
And what everyday moments they get to experience,…
While we tightly smile
Grinning and bearing it.
Pretending it doesn’t break our hearts to see the parts of life that we get shut out of.
So smile pretty and be tourists, but don’t forget that as tourists …one of the most lovely things about Canada is that it is an accepting place. Open your eyes.
After not seeing my father in law since before our wedding, two years ago, that he didn’t acknowledge or attend… I got out of the car to say hi to everyone, and while my niece rushed to say hello to her auntie
He walked by as if I wasn’t even there.
“Does my hair look dumb? (Pause)… I know the double buns are a bit whimsical; I am aware of this.”
“Yeah, the whole thing is whimsical.”
She chimes in (in my voice):
-‘I don’t know where you guys think this is, but I’m not in a Food Basics parking lot; I’m going to the beach. I’m on an island’
And then we giggle about the 2 Dope Chicks podcast -“Slay! Yes, bitch!”