I didn’t know how indispensable our doula would be for our birth experience. Our midwives were great and they delivered our baby with such skill and certifiable awesomeness… however, our doula fulfilled so many of the skills, support and roles that I assumed our midwife would perform: comfort, hand-holding, motivation and being there early, as soon as labour ‘might’ have started. Who will be/was present at your birth? I thought we’d have each other (wife and I) and our midwives, but when the opportunity to have a doula arose, I was curious whether it would be a good fit.
Our doula’s name was Laura and I can’t say enough good things.
I honestly could not have imagined the birth of my first child without Laura’s support and I couldn’t have asked for a more ideal doula experience. Before and after labour, Laura was invested in our family and in finding just the right way to support us, both me as a new mother and my partner. During labour and delivery I cannot express how essential Laura’s care, attention to detail, advocacy and kindness were for me, both mentally and physically. She ensured that we had the labour we wanted and reminded us of our options; when a complication arose, and it turned out that I was delivering a 10 pound baby, Laura was there to make sure that I remained calm and focused, coaching me through the hardest moments of my life and helping my partner and me reach our end goal: the safe arrival of our little one and a safe delivery for me.
Laura is intuitive, professional and warm. She’s a fantastic listener. Laura anticipated my needs and was a constant reassuring, strong presence for me at each step of the birth journey. Laura’s approach is equity focused, which was very important to my partner and me. She took the time to listen to us, to understand what our family envisioned for the birth of our child. She really alleviated my fears by sharing excellent professional knowledge and asking great questions, which allowed her to provide information, expertise and emotional support in the most positive way. I could say that ‘I couldn’t have done it without her,’ but more accurately – I wouldn’t have wanted to labour and deliver without Laura’s care and support.
All in all it was a very feminist birth: all women and none over 40 – pretty impressive and empowering. Our doula, at left, was someone I didn’t expect to need so much.