Love, Love, Love

After a year of being smitten, officially… in the eyes of the government, we are still happily married. Our fabulous photographer put together a reel of real love, captured on film. I definitely enjoy the magic; The Notebook’s got nothing on this.

https://vimeo.com/115745990

A Year in Review is a montage of diverse, beautifully captured moments in the lives of lovers and their families.  Kate O’Connor, is the photographer behind the lens and was an integral part of our big day.

http://sweetheartempire.com/portfolio/featured-photography/

Return of the Rag

It’s a gross way to phrase it. I know. But I’ve never been so excited for a period. After six weeks of post-miscarriage bleeding. Then a confusing, is it a period or is it still just blood…post-pregnancy-waiting spell. After I had some wake-you-from-your-sleep at 4am wicked cramps, Allia joked that at least if I get my period, it might trigger her.

Lo and behold. I got a text this afternoon saying that her period is finally here. Which means… that we are back on the road to planning a second try.

Never thought I’d be so happy to welcome our friend.

Colour Your World

Recently found my old Barbie colouring book. I cherished it so much that it has lasted, in good condition, about 50% coloured, for the past 25 years. On a recent visit, my niece wanted to colour and I (almost) withheld the book, because I still pull it out every so often for some therapeutic colouring.
Our home is full of art. Brimming. Although I love open concept design, I could never commit to it, principally for the lack of wall-space. Once we have these little ones, we will definitely foster a love of arts, arts and crafts – surely – and adding cherished pieces into our home.

So, I was thrilled to see some inspired ways to display kids’ art and encourage those little artists to embrace their creative side.

Wires to suspend art and art supplies.
Wires to suspend art and art supplies.
Pants-hanger gallery wall.
Pants-hanger gallery wall.
Clipboards for drawings and paintings line the stairs.
Clipboards for drawings and paintings line the stairs.
Art on a wire.
Art on a wire.

All photos are from my Pinterest page “HomeSweet” https://www.pinterest.com/alisonjc/home-sweet/

Sweet Details for the Wee One

My mom just passed along some of the beautiful framed artwork from my own childhood nursery, and it got me thinking about the details that will colour my own baby’s memories. I love whimsical artwork and the personalized touches that add imagination and personality to the home.

Here are a few of my favourite things, that I hope to add as the nursery comes together.

Frame-worthy calendar illustrations.
Frame-worthy calendar illustrations.
Sweet creatures to add an element of colour and imagination.
Sweet creatures to add an element of colour and imagination. 
Colourful Jenga-style block tower.
Colourful Jenga-style block tower.  
Take a block from the bottom, and put it on top.
Take a block from the bottom, and put it on top.

All of these sweet treats are available at Anthropologie. What personalized touches will you be adding to your nursery?

One Year, One Day

It’s amazing to think of how things change. And don’t.

One year ago (nearly), we got married. It has been legal for same-sex couples in Ontario to wed for a decade now. One year has changed us, but in many ways, nothing has changed. People asked, ‘Is it different? Does it feel different?’

At our wedding one year ago.
At our wedding one year ago.

Being married changed nothing and changed everything. Superficially, I love calling her my wife. But I’ve loved calling her anything that includes attaching our names, and ourselves, to one another. In all these months, many more people have realized that love is love. There have been music videos and songs, PSAs and campaigns, interviews and speeches.

https://www.google.ca/webhp?sourceid=chrome-instant&ion=1&espv=2&ie=UTF-8#q=same%20love

New laws, legislating the privilege to withdraw support from same sex people (like first-responders in emergency situations or health care, restaurant owners, hotels, and an endless list of people in Indiana who can now legally discriminate). And many oppose this ‘opposition’ to love.

I celebrate my love in all the little ways, and in quiet moments; but if called to the mic, I’ll sing it loud and proud. I love you. That is something we should all recognize, that in the face of oppression, we will fight for those we love, and sometimes that is self-love – hard-won and fragile, like so many young, queer people who are rejected and abandoned for being who they are. Sometimes, you find a person to fight with and fight for. And “It gets better,” becomes the truth.

And now, present and precious. Love.
And now, present and precious. Love.

Always the Clothes Horse. For the Baby, Of Course

Is it weird that, with a moratorium on shopping (for both of us), that my wife and I now justify purchases as being ‘for when we have the baby?’

I think it’s a coping strategy. Things are changing. Like our finances. Like our bodies. After our wedding we both gained a blissful fifteen and… were happy. Sigh.

Now, knowing we have to save and account for upcoming expenses (on top of budgeting for paying to create a life), we have to be more careful. But we are fallible and the temptation of a good deal, combined with the practicality of how it will suit our new life as parents makes some purchases too good to pass up. In each instance, the justification is masterful. Here is where we slip:

Cowhide Rug. For nursery. What/?!  “For nursery..?” you ask. Yes, of course. What was once covered in poop, will again battle the drool, spit up and diaper messes of life with a baby. 16Aside from being playful and durable, cowhides (as tried and tested in the past 4 years with one in our living room) are resistant to stains, slip proof, repel water and (as long as the source is one that doesn’t support inhumane conditions) uses the whole animal. I’m expecting a barrage of comments about bacteria and exposing our kids to strains of animal-borne viruses. Given the research into anti-bacterial chaos, as created by hand-sanitizers, and having survived a childhood of playing in sandboxes and having 5 cats, I’m going to go with a raised eyebrow on that one. Plus, there was a big sale and a half price cow hide is pretty irresistible, unless you already have objections to a proposal as modest as skinning something for your floor covering. (I can feel you cringing). But you just have a look; Google it and there are a bazillion cowhides in nurseries already.

Next, there is the obvious problem (not problem) of expanding waistlines. WC02805_All2For this, and my sympathy weight gain, there are super high-waisted jeggings. Especially awesome in pale acid-wash. Especially for ten dollars. Thank you comfortable house pants… which will also look amazing on a plane ride, or when picking up a toddler, or paired with heels and a crop top when we go to Greece this summer. It’s practical, really. Because I can wear them again when it’s my turn to carry.

Lastly, the oft-feared subject of swimsuits. I’m not willing to give up a two piece. So how can I pass on a pair of high-waisted bikini bottoms?! Especially since it’s ‘for the baby’. I abhor people using pets and babies as accessories. But what about using babies as an excuse to purchase actual accessories? So cute. And truly practical, as my new-mommy friend explained to me that her body has morphed and her former swim apparel is no longer her friend; all her former swimsuits have abandoned her, except the high-waisted briefs. They are an investment. Timeless. Even if they’ll never look quite like this: z_3219HWBK3220 image4xl