Had a party last night. A clothing swap. On a Wednesday. Raucous laughter, Pol Roger, … doesn’t mean he isn’t still waking up at 3 am and then starting our day at 6. I was thinking about it yesterday, as I marvelled at how quickly the house gets into a state of total chaos, and how seemingly every dish in my house is dirty… while the dishwasher sits, clean but not yet unloaded. How is it possible to feel so busy, but also feel like I just get reset to back zero each day, instead of getting more things on my to-do list done? I had the ridiculous idea that I’d get all these projects done in my ‘free time’ now that I wasn’t working full time and was instead home with an infant.
What does a typical day look like?
6 am – In bed for a morning feed.
6:15 cuddle in bed and play before we all get up (practice standing, sing)
6:30 leave him with my wife so I can brush teeth, put on clothes and deoderant
6:45 practice walking with his walker, and my legs, sit on the kitchen floor while I blow bubbles, making my coffee
7 am – put in a baking pan pancake for breakfast, cut up watermelon and veggies to roast for our lunch, using the over while it’s hot
7:20 cuddle after some unexplained tears; open this page and decide to document our day
7:24 – serve up breakfast and eat with him. Watermelon, formula in cereal with banana and apple, some strips of pancake. Coffee for me.
7:50 – clean up breakfast, try to unload the dishwasher, take roasted veggies out to cool.
7:55-9:30 – drive my wife to the train to go to work, take baby with me for a quick grocery shop. Come home, get a second coffee while kiddo plays and chases me around. Put away groceries. Take him upstairs to diaper change, read a few books, nurse and put him down for nap number one. Once he is asleep, put in a load of laundry, get dressed, sunscreen and makeup. Hair in a bun. Pack the diaper bag. Drink my coffee and update this list. Put the soup stock together in a pot with the roasted veggies on low. Plan lunch. Send a few texts to make afternoon plans.
9:30 – Make a to-do list for the day; check email (with that same coffee). Answer some marketplace messages (I’m looking for size 6 shoes for his monster feet).
10 am – make some calls and wait on hold with phone reps to do some returns and customer service stuff. Eat a cupcake and drink a big glass of water. Look at real estate listings (because obviously now is the easiest time to plan a move).
10:30 – unload dishwasher and reload to avoid yesterday’s end of day disaster:
10:40 – hang load of laundry to dry. Get baby up from nap. Change diaper, dress him, load into the car and get to drop-in centre just a bit late.
11-12pm Babies on the Move drop-in class at the Early On centre. Water table, snacks, sensory bins, hula hoops, ribbons, pom poms, parachute, bubbles!!!
12:10 – nurse him and chat with another mom.
12:25 – Go to pick up some size 6 and 7 shoes from someone on FB Marketplace. Prepping for little Mister’s big feet!
12:40 – Get to my friend’s place for a play date. Walked through her neighbourhood then down to the creek and through the forest.
1:30 – Sit in the grass and nurse our kiddos. Play on the swings. Walk back.
2 pm – Get back in the car and drive home. Baby falls asleep for 45 minutes. Yay! Go through the drivethru and get Beyond Meat and egg breakfast sandwiches. Get one to share with baby later on.
2:55 – Sitting in car reading and eating. Let him wake up while we are parked at home.
3pm -3:30 – Lunch (he nurses so often that our meal timing is sometimes off). Egg, English muffin, beyond meat patty, homemade veggie soup, peas and pear puree. Some cucumber.
3:30 – up to his room for a diaper change and to put away laundry in his room. Reorganize his shoes. He pulls all his diapers out and we put them all away.
3:45 – strip off my top and decide to abandon sitting up nursing – this was the most lovely, intimate and cuddly moment of the day. He is so energized and cuddly, exploring, funny and silly; I let him climb all over me, nursing, popping off, climbing the pillows, wrestling, practicing standing by pulling up on the head board, climbing on me, doing fake body slams into the duvet, airplanes, and letting him explore, nurse and play. He does this amazingly cute thing where he will drink, then lie back, arching his back across me with a big open mouth grin and his head hanging down, like a deep back bend.
4:15 – Get dressed again. Get water for us both. Go for a walk around the block.
4:45 – visit with our neighbours. One of the daughters of our neighbour sat with us on the porch, talking and playing with him. Other neighbours came to the porch to talk with us. K played with a small ball and would put it into my hand, offer it to someone else, took off the little girl’s shoe, put the ball in, looked for it.
We spent a lot of time just letting him explore.
5:25 – Back inside to let him play independently on his mat while I prepped dinner. Just a small sweet potato puree, cheese, crackers, watermelon, some cheese pizza (of mine). A prune squeezie. Will clean this up later.
6:00 – Sat on the couch and let him climb on me, look out the window, play (not unsupervised) with the blinds, looking at the world. Read two books.
6:30 – Nursed him (trying a different order here, rather than right before bed).
6:55 – Walked out to the street to meet my wife who was getting home from work. Handed him off for her to do bath time, story and bedtime.
7:25 – He is asleep
Came back to type this out, send some emails, have a glass of wine. Make plans for tomorrow. I’m pretty tired. But so many sweet memories from today. Sometimes it feels like every day is my favourite. Other times it feels like they drag. Today was a good day.